My type of love

I was walking home to my in-laws after a day at the salon getting a much needed manicures pedicure, and I seen my younger brother-in-law shootin hoops with Apollo. He disappeared behind the car parked in the driveway. As I got closer, Apollo came back running with a small plant in his hand with two, beautiful, red, nicely-bloomed flower. 

It isn’t every week that a busy mom like myself gets a treat to get pampered for a couple of hours. Perhaps those are the little luxuries I took for granted as a single gal, so many moons ago.

It isn’t because of my children that I’m unable to keep some kind of level of ‘pretty-ness’. I never wore make-up on the daily–before the whole ‘kids thing’ to say I’m missing that these days. Nor did I pride myself on dressing up a certain way before I had children. Therefore, a lot of the time I look like, your everyday, exhausted looking mom because the dark circles I had before I even had any children, has become more permanent from the lack of sleep, I choose to have for the sake of my children. Yes, I’m that kind of mom.

I wear, what I wear because comfort is a big deal. When you have children seven years old and younger, there’s no point in wearing fancy, name-brand outfits. If you are the type of mom to get through the day using your shirt as every type of cloth, may it be to: wipe hands, snot, milk drips, dirty mouths, etc., then there is absolutely no reason for you to dress like you’re about to attend an adult, weekend bbq. 

There are better things that matter to me most, than how people perceive me through my outfit of the day. I do, however, give kudos to my fellow-moms who keep their exterior portrait on point.

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I live in this hoodie

(Off topic but..)

A few weeks ago, I had dinner with an old friend. Pinks and I go way back, to twelve and thirteen year olds, trying to figure out if, one day we ever married one of the BSBs or N’Sync hotties, how would life be?

We rekindled our friendship in high school, taking summer school together. I think we spent one class, just chatting up one time, and never actually made it to class. A three hour class wasted on high school drama. That was our life then, and it was important to be able to discuss this and give that the priority. 

A few years down the line I had Apollo, and then she had B, and all of a sudden, mothering and all the attachments to that, ran our world.

Through all those changes, one thing never changed..Pinks had always kept up with her extroverted image. She was always into that kind of stuff, the girly stuff. I, more of the tomboy gettup.

We’re all different. We mom different. We do us different, and that’s ok. That’s what makes us unique.

What I’m trying to get at is…

While sometimes I wish I could give myself the attention to be able to ‘fix’ myself up every morning, I choose not to. I don’t bother because I would rather spend that fifteen minutes glamming myself to get some extra few minutes in bed, with my kids.  I would rather spend those fifteen minutes, staring at how beautiful my children are preciously growing, each day. I am willing to give all of me, in this way, to my kids. And I am ok with that.

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My life

I am, every bit still loved, still wanted, still appreciated, still needed, STILL their mom.

…and gestures as sweet as that, need no change in my type of love.

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xo, M.

“I am proud of many things in life, but nothing beats being a mother.”

Author: mommyingmaars

Maria, author of Imommy blog. Maria has three children, Apollo (8), Artemis (2), and Cassiopeia (1). She is due to marry her best friend July 2017. Maria used to be a Registered Early Childhood Educator, before having her second child. She is now a SAHM, that is not paid for wearing many other professional hats. She is, and not limited to some of these professional positions: Doctor, Nurse, Nanny, Chef, Maid, Uber Driver, and so on.. When she isn't mothering or tending to all her other unlicensed professional positions, she loves writing and dancing. She is a previous ballroom and latin competitor. Some of her favourite "stuff" are, turtles/turtoises, the colour green (lime - forest), Laneige's Sleeping mask, make-up, and eating (food is her most favourite self-care aspect). Maria is also currently writing a book on her autobiography, which has been ongoing for the last few years, she's certain she'll eventually finish if she could just get over the hump of emotions attached to exploring oneself. As you read Maria's blogs, you'll get a feel of the true individual that she is, which can sometimes be a fine line of crazy and sweet, but not too sweet. Maria hopes you'll enjoy her blog as she does talking in her head to herself as her fingers skim through the letters on her keyboard. A message from Maria; I do not intend to use my writing to impose or tell you how motherhood should be done. I am no pro at this, and find as I share my wisdom from my experiences, that it shall uncover parts of your heart that find it relatable. My posts aren't always consistent in writing, but it is meant for you to to take in as it is. Find it humurous, sad, lonely, or helpful. Whatever it is you take from it, it only means one thing.. that I have found a place in your mind for those few minutes you dedicated to reading my crap. Thank you for being here, for giving me the chance to share my thoughts. Please return, and remember all written materials and photos on this site, is not to be taken without permission. xo, MM

16 thoughts on “My type of love”

  1. Love your honesty. I am the other type of mom you mentioned. I still wear good clothes, though my style has evolved into comfort casual from high fashion. I get my cuddles and I still put my face together up every morning for school runs. I do it in my ” mommy time”. My point is, motherhood can make you look even more beautiful & chic, and that totally depends on your style & interests before you even became a mommy.

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    1. I totally second that! I have gfs who dress to the nines on a regular day and thats awesome and thats amazing to me! It all varies on whether you were that type of girl before motherhood. In the end we are all still moms. It doesn’t make us less of a mom if we dedicate time for us to do what we need to, to take on the day..or if we’d rather not! Thanks for coming by and sharing your thoughts!

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  2. Never know what works for each mom. I need the house picked up regularly (too regularly) while many others it doesn’t bother. Most of the time make-up isn’t a priority for me either but depends on where we are heading!

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    1. I totally get that! I mean i only do makeup and hair when i need to for specific events or occasions..but on the regular totally something I’m incapable of keeping up with. Its true..we all mom differently! I need the house tidied regularly..i cant stand clutter and mess..it bothers me i cant function lol

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  3. I agree with you completely. What is important right now is to focus on being a mom – The kids are only young once and they grow up fast. What a sweet post! And I am glad that you and Pinks continue to be good friends despite your mom differences.

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    1. Thanks Betty ! I want my kids to stop growing..is that too much to ask? Ugh i just want them to be babies forever! As hard as it is..they dont push away my face for kisses yet and they still follow me around..my 8 yr old acts like a preteen now πŸ˜’ so mommy is no longer cool in public. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts! Pinks is fun!

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  4. I think that what I love most about this post is the picture you paint of your enduring friendship with “Pinks.” Motherhood can either amplify our differences and drive us apart or it can bind us together with the shared thread of this crazy, overwhelming love we all have for our kiddos. I am so thankful that you found the latter.

    Also, if I had you skin, I wouldn’t wear make-up either! πŸ˜‰

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    1. Awe i love how you caught more than the make-up part..pinks is a good friend 😊. Ive had my fair share of losing friends from becoming a mother..it was the hardest thing..but then there are the ones who stuck! Lol my skin is on a protest from some stress I’ve been on.

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  5. Definitely. Some days I look on my phone and sit there and am like how am I still sitting here and were not even dressed haha. My son now wakes me up some days. I would do anything to stop time but three is a fun age.

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  6. This is beautiful! I also give kudos to the moms that look like a million bucks on the daily LOL But I’m just as happy, if not more happy, to spend extra time snuggling my little man than putting on eyeshadow. And I think it makes it even more special when you can pamper yourself so you appreciate it more. Thanks for this post!

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