I have saved this video time, and time again. I have never actually sat down and watched this six minute video on Jada Pinkett being a mom. While some of the stuff she said dragged-on, I will say this though… 

Often times, the expectations of MOM’s are so high–that we loose ourselves trying to ‘balance’ everything. Often times, the ones who are more organized, and sergeant about every detail of their life, are the ones who loose their sh*t, about everything. I can attest to this. 

I have spent the last six years of my life as a mother to aK, thinking I’m doing just fine balancing it all. But in the last six years, I’ve had several breakdowns, from exhaustion, and sacrificing everything to be ‘that mom’. What does it even mean to be ‘THAT MOM’?

I don’t want to be just their mom. I want to be an awesome wife, to J. I want to be an awesome ME, so that I can be happy. Happiness isn’t a bad thing. Just because, we’re moms now doesn’t mean we have to forget about ourselves. TAKING CARE OF OURSELVES is really the important key to being able to tend, and care to everyone else that make our family. Our family rely on us for so much, that if all our pieces aren’t pieced together, it will make it that much harder to be the person they need us to be. 

So let me add on to my goal for this year: TAKE CARE OF MYSELF, whatever that means to me. 

  • A coffee break in the morning, before Arty wakes up.
  • A read of an article or two online. 
  • Put on make-up.
  • Get dressed.
  • Blog while Arty naps.
  • Take an hour a day (whatever time of the day to myself).
  • Go out on the weekend, alone.

It is crucial for the health of all moms, to give themselves the sanity they need, to keep their family sane. 

Must have been the fever..

Monday to Friday the clock strikes at 7:30 and I give myself another ten minutes to find the strength for my bottom half to get up and support my top half. Most moms will relate, I don’t think we actually sleep when you have young children. I spend at least two to three times up to fetch a bottle for Arty (thank god, she sleeps while she drinks) and then I’m up for Apollo to ready him for school (gotta get that edu-ma-ca-tion). After he’s off to school, Arty and I may, or may not head to Starbucks for our morning ritual of ‘going for a walk’. We’ll either spend breakfast there or head home. The air helps tire her out?

This morning is a late start for, J. Just before he left, he noticed Apollo was running a temperature. His whole body was hot. So of course, he gave him some medicine to calm the fever and a note for me would have gone like this,
“Kai is sick with a fever. I gave him tylenol. Give him a cold shower and tell him lots of rest”.
My husband should have been a doctor. He would have told me that in the note, because I panic when the kids are sick. I’m terrible at staying calm, when they’re unwell. Thank God, I knew what he would have said, otherwise, I wouldn’t know what to do.

Trying to tend to Apollo can be challenging when the little one is not entertained by her usual fun video of “Five Little Ducks” by Little Baby Bum on Youtube. She’ll cry behind the Starwars Box calling out for me, until I come back and she stares at me with tears running down her face. Sometimes, I wanna write a book on what I think babies are saying and thinking. Arty sounds really funny in most of my versions.

Anyway it’s just lunch time and my  morning has been quite an adventure already. I’ve got to run to the trusty over-the-counter people for some medicine on fixing fevers and smashed screens because I smartly dropped the corner of the laptop on my screen phone. The universe is lovely today.


xoxo, mom

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