Becoming MRS

Most of the ones who know J and I, know we’re merely Common Law partners. We have been together for the last ten years. In ten years, we’ve managed to complete goals together like post-secondary while have a toddler, and then another within that five year. In ten years, we’ve also been blessed with three kids. Above all, we’ve gone through and have surpassed most of the challenges that life has thrown at us.

We are anything but a typical couple, from the way we show we care and love each other, to how we allow others to perceive us as individuals and as partners through this life. We didn’t always think of marriage. The marriage talk didn’t come until much later in our relationship. It wasn’t because we didn’t think it was important or something we’d ever do. It was just something we didn’t feel was right for us, as soon as we had our first child. I guess you could say we’re a bit backwards with life’s events.

He recently proposed to me a couple of months ago, with Wonder Woman’s tiara from Mcdonalds, as he laid on the floor of the playroom, and our two younger ones circling around us. It was perfect in it’s own way. A much subtle proposal as I had asked of him. I didn’t want a huge, extravagant, extra kind of proposal. I am not the type of girl that dreamed of this one day, or played dress-up imagining my wedding day with my prince charming. It was perfect in all of it’s way!

July is the big day, and I am as excited as someone who marriage is the first step into being adult. I am excited because we finally get to explore this chapter of our relationship where I become Mrs, and he my legal husband.

We will be having a civil wedding, with 33 guests, along with our three beautiful children. I am so happy that my children get to be part of this day.

It’s crazy how life rolls on through. Being one who never saw this coming, it gives me such an amazing feeling to become his wife, even though we’ve got ten years, and three kids under our belt already.

Anyone else, was, is, in the future, in the same position?

MM

 

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Hello Change?

When in Windsor, Ontario.

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Well, Hello, Windsor!

Helloooooo!! I know I’ve been MIA for a while. I have been crazy busy with a few changes. The photo above is our new home. We have officially left Toronto, ON, Canada and moved three and a half hours to Windsor, ON, Canada. We are now close to the boarder to Detroit, Michigan, USA, where J, will be doing some work with a company in automation. The past month, has been crazy hectic, with packing and getting sorted for the move. From a two-bedroom apartment, you’d think we’ve not much for such a tiny place. But guess what.. I have never packed so much stuff and sorted through so much stuff like that before. We have done many moves, we have hauled many things, but this time, the truck was literally packed up to the rim, to the point where as soon as they opened the truck when we got to Windsor, stuff just fell out.

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On to a new adventure..bye for now Toronto

Now that the move is done, we have settled-in Apollo at his new school. He’s back to a Catholic School. So the adjustments required are in place. Coming from a Public School, academically he feels a little behind. But there’s nothing that smart boy can’t figure out. He started the Tuesday after we moved. He was a little bit afraid and nervous, but the day he started I pointed out all the boys in his class looking at him, excitedly wondering who he was, and the beautiful girls in his class. That helped with his social nerves.

Arty on the other hand, seems to require at least two more weeks of adjustments. She’s been rather cranky and unsettled. Perhaps, she feels we’ll return to Etobicoke, to our old place.  I don’t blame her. I miss home too!

Cassi doesn’t understand the change that just happen. She is growing everyday, and becoming more responsive. She smiles, coos, and makes noises now as if she’s talking to you. She loves chatting. Her personality is slowly starting to show, which is great.

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Cassiopeia Reine

My In-Law’s came over the weekend. They spent the weekend with us, which was great. It’s still a little hard being so far from everyone. And the kids love that they get to see them as if not much as changed. I’m thankful they’re willing drive here 3.5 hrs, because I know it’s hard. It’s not that far, but it’s still half a day drive.

It was my birthday yesterday. We didn’t do much, but I’m definitely a lucky girl to be surrounded by so much love.

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A card from Apollo, Artemis, Cassiopeia and J. The drawing is by Apollo. 

This new change is definitely one that you require you to slowly seep into. I don’t think I fully feel the change as yet. It feels almost like we’re just on vacation, but I know as time passes that feeling will subside and we’ll really have to start setting up roots and make this our home. We have yet to furnish the place to our liking, and to figure some of the stuff about the house..we’re sort of just taking our time to really slowly transition the kids. We’ve got a garage full of stuff still that we’re slowly unpacking, but that surely takes some time. There’s no rush.

I should be able to blog more frequently, I had just been in a funk after the move that it’s been hard to sit in front of the computer and figure this whole writing stuff out.

Anyway, I’m hungry..

“Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come. Remember every thing you have faced, all the battles you have won, and all the fears you have overcome.”

Be good.

xo, M.

Belle River

Remember at the end of last year when I mentioned that, there are a ton of changes to happen this year?

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The first of the amazing things to look forward to this year was the birth of our Third child, Cassiopeia. She was born this month, and boy is it amazing to have three children. It’s quite chaotic, and an adjustment on its own. I mean, having one child was an adjustment, then came the second, and that was even more of an adjustment because, the second time around we had a girl. For the last six years, we raised a boy. But we managed. We learned, we conquered, still conquering, and now, I think we’re doing okay raising Artemis who is now a one year old. It’s a lot to be alone with three kids. Getting one child ready for school, and then getting the other two ready to tag along was overwhelming the first time. What I have learned so far is that, there’s absolutely no such thing as being well prepared ahead of time. There’s no such thing as timing specific things so that it works out you’re on time. If J, and I managed to be on time for things with the first two children, having five people in our family definitely means, now, that we’ll be punctual in our definition of time. But the good of all of this is, the moments that make it all worth while. Just like the car ride is filled with laughter in the back seat because, Apollo and Artemis is now sitting beside each other, and the fun is great. I love how Arty constantly kisses her baby sister. Unlimited, slobbery, kisses for Cassi. There’s so much love. My home is filled with so much love, and it’s all I ever wanted. 

On to the next; 

J, recently accepted to team up with an automation company in Michigan, USA. That means, we’re required to move. While we have decided not to move to the USA for the job, because it’s just too much with a newborn, we have decided to relocate near the boarder. That means, Windsor, ON. We actually found a house fifteen minutes outside of Windsor, in Lakeshore, ON. It’s quite a nice place, in a nice neighbourhood, safe for the kids. This means, goodbye Toronto. The home, we grew-up in, the neighbourhood we only know to be home. It’s going to be quite a change. A scary one at that, since we don’t know much about being three and a half hours away. The move is scary, the transition is scary, but nothing is greater than knowing our lives continue to move forward. 

J, and I are goal oriented people. We do our best for our kids, and we work hard as a family. So, this next adventure is definitely one for the books. Now we don’t expect to be gone forever. We don’t expect to be over there forever, but we do expect to make that place our home for the next few years. 

This change is bittersweet. As much as I like to believe being far away is going to strengthen our bonds within our immediate family, it is going to be hard to be away from everyone we know; our family, our friends, our neighbourhood, the things we enjoy within our city, and the things that aK has grown up to know within his surrounding for the last seven years. This move isn’t just going to be a transition for us, but also for the kids, especially aK. aK’s been to two schools in the last three years of his academic life. He’s about to venture into another one, and rebuild again, in terms of his relationships with teachers, and peers. He’ll be leaving his best friend behind, and find a new one over there. I’m certain he’ll be fine, but the soft-heart mommy in me can’t help but worry he may struggle at first. But this is a struggle we’ll all be tackling together, as a family, and that’s all that matters. 

Anyway, this is all the time I have folks. I’ll be sure to update you with more great news soon! 

I’m hungry.

In the end of last year, I realize I needed to reassess the people I had in my life. Throughout the years, I’ve managed to distant myself from people who, I felt, were toxic in my life. So far, that has done me good. It has made my life redirect in a more, positive direction, and has taught me to take charge of myself for the things I really needed in my life. 
This has taught me to really take the time to figure out what I wanted for myself; what I wanted for my life; what I wanted for my kids; what I wanted out of being a parent; what I wanted out of being a wife. This has brought some peace, and some negative outcomes, but all-in-all, a good thing. 

This is my advice to you:

“In this life, we are bound to cross paths with others. Others who become family, good friends, and people who are meant to just be there for the moment that they are required to make, break, or change something in your life. What you do with that moment is up to you. But there comes a point, in all relationships that we have with others, where we have to move on. This is just the way life goes. We have to move on, because we have to grow. We have to move on, because we need them to grow. You have to focus on who you are, what your purpose is in this lifetime, what you are meant to be for yourself and then, others. It is not to be selfish, but to give your life meaning, and lessons. So give your time to those who need it, take it away from those who’s done with it, and keep building ON YOU, and YOUR DREAMS!”

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