I have saved this video time, and time again. I have never actually sat down and watched this six minute video on Jada Pinkett being a mom. While some of the stuff she said dragged-on, I will say this though… 

Often times, the expectations of MOM’s are so high–that we loose ourselves trying to ‘balance’ everything. Often times, the ones who are more organized, and sergeant about every detail of their life, are the ones who loose their sh*t, about everything. I can attest to this. 

I have spent the last six years of my life as a mother to aK, thinking I’m doing just fine balancing it all. But in the last six years, I’ve had several breakdowns, from exhaustion, and sacrificing everything to be ‘that mom’. What does it even mean to be ‘THAT MOM’?

I don’t want to be just their mom. I want to be an awesome wife, to J. I want to be an awesome ME, so that I can be happy. Happiness isn’t a bad thing. Just because, we’re moms now doesn’t mean we have to forget about ourselves. TAKING CARE OF OURSELVES is really the important key to being able to tend, and care to everyone else that make our family. Our family rely on us for so much, that if all our pieces aren’t pieced together, it will make it that much harder to be the person they need us to be. 

So let me add on to my goal for this year: TAKE CARE OF MYSELF, whatever that means to me. 

  • A coffee break in the morning, before Arty wakes up.
  • A read of an article or two online. 
  • Put on make-up.
  • Get dressed.
  • Blog while Arty naps.
  • Take an hour a day (whatever time of the day to myself).
  • Go out on the weekend, alone.

It is crucial for the health of all moms, to give themselves the sanity they need, to keep their family sane. 

Author: mommyingmaars

Maria, author of Imommy blog. Maria has three children, Apollo (8), Artemis (2), and Cassiopeia (1). She is due to marry her best friend July 2017. Maria used to be a Registered Early Childhood Educator, before having her second child. She is now a SAHM, that is not paid for wearing many other professional hats. She is, and not limited to some of these professional positions: Doctor, Nurse, Nanny, Chef, Maid, Uber Driver, and so on.. When she isn't mothering or tending to all her other unlicensed professional positions, she loves writing and dancing. She is a previous ballroom and latin competitor. Some of her favourite "stuff" are, turtles/turtoises, the colour green (lime - forest), Laneige's Sleeping mask, make-up, and eating (food is her most favourite self-care aspect). Maria is also currently writing a book on her autobiography, which has been ongoing for the last few years, she's certain she'll eventually finish if she could just get over the hump of emotions attached to exploring oneself. As you read Maria's blogs, you'll get a feel of the true individual that she is, which can sometimes be a fine line of crazy and sweet, but not too sweet. Maria hopes you'll enjoy her blog as she does talking in her head to herself as her fingers skim through the letters on her keyboard. A message from Maria; I do not intend to use my writing to impose or tell you how motherhood should be done. I am no pro at this, and find as I share my wisdom from my experiences, that it shall uncover parts of your heart that find it relatable. My posts aren't always consistent in writing, but it is meant for you to to take in as it is. Find it humurous, sad, lonely, or helpful. Whatever it is you take from it, it only means one thing.. that I have found a place in your mind for those few minutes you dedicated to reading my crap. Thank you for being here, for giving me the chance to share my thoughts. Please return, and remember all written materials and photos on this site, is not to be taken without permission. xo, MM

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: