Friends then Wife

Next week, is when things get back to the usual for J. That means, a busy schedule for the next few months. 

One of my many goals for this year is, to REMEMBER I AM A FRIEND FIRST and then A WIFE. 


This year has taught me that while things may get chaotic, and crazy at times with being parents, and managing life with children, and a list of responsibilities, that I have someone to go through the motion with. 

J, and I spend so much of our time trading skills on who feeds the baby, changes the diapers, takes the firstborn to school, picks up the firstborn, does the groceries, alternates the laundry schedules, and it gets overwhelming. It becomes difficult to recall who we are individually, and together for each other. 


This year, I have to make all the efforts in the world to remember that while he is the father of the little munchkins we have, and our responsibilities are a list of who does what, when, where… HE IS MY BEST FRIEND. When you have a best friend, who makes you smile all the time, who drives you crazy, who talks your ear out, who loves you with everything he is, and then some, you love that person for who he is to you, not just who he is to everything else in your life

I will talk softly 
I will listen with heart
I will speak as your friend first, then your wife
I will do whatever it takes to remind us, we are US before, ‘Mom & Dad’.

Love, Beb

Author: mommyingmaars

Maria, author of Imommy blog. Maria has three children, Apollo (8), Artemis (2), and Cassiopeia (1). She is due to marry her best friend July 2017. Maria used to be a Registered Early Childhood Educator, before having her second child. She is now a SAHM, that is not paid for wearing many other professional hats. She is, and not limited to some of these professional positions: Doctor, Nurse, Nanny, Chef, Maid, Uber Driver, and so on.. When she isn't mothering or tending to all her other unlicensed professional positions, she loves writing and dancing. She is a previous ballroom and latin competitor. Some of her favourite "stuff" are, turtles/turtoises, the colour green (lime - forest), Laneige's Sleeping mask, make-up, and eating (food is her most favourite self-care aspect). Maria is also currently writing a book on her autobiography, which has been ongoing for the last few years, she's certain she'll eventually finish if she could just get over the hump of emotions attached to exploring oneself. As you read Maria's blogs, you'll get a feel of the true individual that she is, which can sometimes be a fine line of crazy and sweet, but not too sweet. Maria hopes you'll enjoy her blog as she does talking in her head to herself as her fingers skim through the letters on her keyboard. A message from Maria; I do not intend to use my writing to impose or tell you how motherhood should be done. I am no pro at this, and find as I share my wisdom from my experiences, that it shall uncover parts of your heart that find it relatable. My posts aren't always consistent in writing, but it is meant for you to to take in as it is. Find it humurous, sad, lonely, or helpful. Whatever it is you take from it, it only means one thing.. that I have found a place in your mind for those few minutes you dedicated to reading my crap. Thank you for being here, for giving me the chance to share my thoughts. Please return, and remember all written materials and photos on this site, is not to be taken without permission. xo, MM

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